Losing a child

[Znj1377]

Sorry to hear that.... I hope this helps a bit... A poem... written by Mary Elizabeth Frye titled:

Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.


It Helped me a loot in similar situation.

Oh and also this:

[Kaiser Soze]

(05-12-2021 12:03 AM)hop Wrote:  Hi all BBHF members,

As I have not been very active on this great form, I think I have to tell the reason.

Last 4/7/2021 my son has died at the age of 36 years, it's really very painful to see that your child is dead, you will never see him again, you will never talk with him you will never laugh with him anymore.

By nature , parents will die before a child dies, but in this case, it is not. I am totally destroyed and will need some time to get over it, so please if there are members who want some of my post's, be patient, I will be back

Thank you,
Hop

I have a daughter the same age as your son was.
I can't imagine what you're going through.
I'd be wrecked, entirely.
I spoke to my daughter about what has happened to your son and she wisely said the following...

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Dad, I'd want to you go through a mourning period.
I'd expect that, I'd expect it would be tremendously hard for you to lose your child who you've brought into this world.
You held me before even Mom did while they cleaned me up, then you passed me over to Mom right away.
You saw me grow from a small baby to my first day of school, to my last day of graduation from college.
You walked me down the aisle and reluctantly handed me over to my husband.
You were there for both my children's births and have supported us as a father and grandfather should.
You've seen us through good times and bad.
You've done right by us and we all love you for it.

But Dad, ...I wouldn't want this to destroy you.

I wouldn't want to look down and see you withering and dying from the pain this would cause you.
That would hurt me very much Dad.
I'd want you to remember all the good times we had.
I'd want you to remember all the struggles we had.
I'd want you to be proud of the job you did as a father.

Dad, ...I'd want you to live on in my name.

I'd need you to be strong enough to know I didn't want this for you.
I know there would be days that you just didn't want to face the world, and that's ok once in a while.

But Dad, I'd need you to live on in my name.

My children will need you.
Mom will need you.
You've been the rock in our lives.
You'll have to get through this, never forget me but,

...you need to live on in my name."

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I'm so very sorry this has happened to you.

-Ronny (KS)

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Hi Hop,

I am really very sorry for the loss of your son. My thoughts and best wishes go out to you and your family.

You know, my grandparents had to bury my dear mum when she was just 27 years old. They never got to see her raise her family and we never got to know our mum.

Why do these things happen? who knows, but my family was never the same again.

I am thinking of you and I know you'll have the strength to get through this difficult time.

Take care of yourself, God bless.

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[TheCowboy]

I'm very sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine the pain that you and your family are going through. May he Rest In Peace.

[v555]

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. May your son's soul rest in peace. Let peace and comfort be with you and your loved ones at this difficult time.

[hop]

(05-12-2021 03:20 PM)lala Wrote:  

(05-12-2021 12:03 AM)hop Wrote:  Hi all BBHF members,

As I have not been very active on this great form, I think I have to tell the reason.

Last 4/7/2021 my son has died at the age of 36 years, it's really very painful to see that your child is dead, you will never see him again, you will never talk with him you will never laugh with him anymore.

By nature , parents will die before a child dies, but in this case, it is not. I am totally destroyed and will need some time to get over it, so please if there are members who want some of my post's, be patient, I will be back

Thank you,
Hop

Hi Hop i am so sorry for your loss. Condolence.
but wherever your child now he is on heaven and watching you. He will be really much happy if you will move on. I know it will be hard for now but as time goes by you will get to accept it that everything happen for a reason but it pains me much too. I hope you find more strength. We are just here for you no matter what.

Hi Lala, Thank you for your nice words and help in those difficult times

[hop]

(05-12-2021 04:06 PM)smithnowt Wrote:  Hop I am very sad to see this terrible news and I can only wish you well.

There is little in this life that can exceed the pain of any loss of one's child.

I send along to you my wishes for strength and finding some peace within yourself.

You are a very valued member here and I have always appreciated your contributions.

I'm certain we will all be very relieved when you are returning again.

smith

Hi Smithnowt , Thank you for your nice words

[hop]

(05-12-2021 05:03 PM)ebizmoney Wrote:  Hop, I make no claim to even remotely understand your pain
but I would like to extend my deepest and sincerest condolences
to you and your family.

With those special memories of the best of times that you shared
together, living eternally in your heart and mind your son will
forever be with you.

It saddens me deeply hearing of your loss and I wish peace
upon your son's resting place and a swift return to as
normal a life for you and your family as is humanly possible.

My sincere regards,
eBizmoney

Thank you very much eBizmoney , very nice words

[hop]

(05-12-2021 05:15 PM)osmanal2 Wrote:  Dear hop, really sorry to hear the bad news.

Take your time to rest and may Allah and Fod bless you and your family always.

Thank you Osmanal , for your condolences

[hop]

(05-12-2021 07:07 PM)rebellious Wrote:  Yes we are all here for you, hop. My condolences to you and your loved ones too. I myself was struck with a double whammy as well. My mother has died on the 23rd of January and my brother also died 90 days later on the same day last month. My mom was 84 and my brother was 61. It wasn't easy for our family but we strive to move on with our lives. So stay strong, my friend, I know I am. Peace.

Thank you Rebelious , also for you my condolences . be strong!