Losing a child

[hop]

(05-12-2021 09:17 PM)dexterb Wrote:  Hi. Condolence Hop.

Thank you for sharing and trusting BBF in what you are going through right now.
I pray that you will find strength, courage and peace as you face the days ahead.

Thank you dexterb , for your nice words.

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(05-14-2021 09:13 AM)bestblackhatforum Wrote:  My deepest condolence on what happen. No matter what bro. We are always here for you if you need someone to talk with.

Thank you Administrator, it's always good to have a good family on those difficult days.

[hop]

(05-14-2021 01:32 PM)jimms Wrote:  Sincerest condolences
to you and your family.
We are always here for you Hop.
- Jimms

Thank you Jimms , for your nice words.

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(05-14-2021 10:44 PM)Znj1377 Wrote:  Sorry to hear that.... I hope this helps a bit... A poem... written by Mary Elizabeth Frye titled:
It Helped me a loot in similar situation.

Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.

Thank you Znj1377 , those words are very nice , thank you

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(05-16-2021 02:32 PM)Kaiser Soze Wrote:  

(05-12-2021 12:03 AM)hop Wrote:  Hi all BBHF members,

As I have not been very active on this great form, I think I have to tell the reason.

Last 4/7/2021 my son has died at the age of 36 years, it's really very painful to see that your child is dead, you will never see him again, you will never talk with him you will never laugh with him anymore.

By nature , parents will die before a child dies, but in this case, it is not. I am totally destroyed and will need some time to get over it, so please if there are members who want some of my post's, be patient, I will be back

Thank you,
Hop

I have a daughter the same age as your son was.
I can't imagine what you're going through.
I'd be wrecked, entirely.
I spoke to my daughter about what has happened to your son and she wisely said the following...

begin quote-

Dad, I'd want to you go through a mourning period.
I'd expect that, I'd expect it would be tremendously hard for you to lose your child who you've brought into this world.
You held me before even Mom did while they cleaned me up, then you passed me over to Mom right away.
You saw me grow from a small baby to my first day of school, to my last day of graduation from college.
You walked me down the aisle and reluctantly handed me over to my husband.
You were there for both my children's births and have supported us as a father and grandfather should.
You've seen us through good times and bad.
You've done right by us and we all love you for it.

But Dad, ...I wouldn't want this to destroy you.

I wouldn't want to look down and see you withering and dying from the pain this would cause you.
That would hurt me very much Dad.
I'd want you to remember all the good times we had.
I'd want you to remember all the struggles we had.
I'd want you to be proud of the job you did as a father.

Dad, ...I'd want you to live on in my name.

I'd need you to be strong enough to know I didn't want this for you.
I know there would be days that you just didn't want to face the world, and that's ok once in a while.

But Dad, I'd need you to live on in my name.

My children will need you.
Mom will need you.
You've been the rock in our lives.
You'll have to get through this, never forget me but,

...you need to live on in my name."

-end quote.

I'm so very sorry this has happened to you.

-Ronny (KS)

Hi Kaizer Soze , I am very impressed by those nice words , really it is so nice your daughter says such nice words, thanks again

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(05-16-2021 05:25 PM)Expand Wrote:  Hi Hop,

I am really very sorry for the loss of your son. My thoughts and best wishes go out to you and your family.

You know, my grandparents had to bury my dear mum when she was just 27 years old. They never got to see her raise her family and we never got to know our mum.

Why do these things happen? who knows, but my family was never the same again.

I am thinking of you and I know you'll have the strength to get through this difficult time.

Take care of yourself, God bless.

Expand.

Thank you very much Expand for those nice words, feel sorry for your mom , so young top. Thanks again

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[quote='TheCowboy' pid='3293767' dateline='1621582870']
I'm very sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine the pain that you and your family are going through. May he Rest In Peace.
[/quoteThank you very much TheCowboy , for your condolences

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(05-23-2021 02:23 AM)v555 Wrote:  My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. May your son's soul rest in peace. Let peace and comfort be with you and your loved ones at this difficult time.

Thank you V555 , for your condolences.

[shijil619]

So sorry to hear about your loss. May his soul rest in peace.

[hop]

Thank you shijil619

(07-07-2021 06:40 PM)shijil619 Wrote:  So sorry to hear about your loss. May his soul rest in peace.