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Ever wonder why:
• all the cubs in the family den are so different?
• you always butt heads with a certain family member?
• kid #1 pairs up with kid #3 when there’s a family stand-off?
• kids #2 and #4 are always united against kid #3?
• everybody guesses you’re the oldest child in your family, and you’re a middleborn?
• the firstborn and secondborn in your family are night and day different?
• the baby of the family always gets away with everything?
• your perfectionistic firstborn sibling gets along so well with her fun-loving, practical
joker, baby-of-the-family spouse?
• you pick the friends you do?
• you picked someone so different from you to marry?
• the slightest error you make ruins your day?
• you butt heads with the child most like you, rather than the child most different from
you?
• your coworker is the way he/she is (and how you can get along with him/her)?
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@Super Eagle: Thank you for this. Max reps. This should be a really fun read.

We've all heard stories about parents being overly strict with their first children but loosening their grip, so to speak, with the younger ones.

I'm a first-born. I was the chill one who craved freedom. I was kind of a rebel and non-conformist. I loved learning and excelled in school. I held meaningful jobs (many in supervisory positions) and was never once fired but also was never promoted as far as I should have been because I tended to champion the people's point of view vs. that of authority. I saw through the facade of many who held places of authority and learned that those who lorded over us, in many cases, often didn't know as much as we did. It was then I learned that running my own enterprise would be the best way to make a living going forward. A J-O-B was not for me.

My sister (2nd born) was the perennial caregiver; the tender-hearted one, always eager to lend a helping hand. I don't know if it was a self-esteem issue but she feels she is nobody's priority because she is not reciprocated when in need and she can get very upset when she feels taken advantage of. Yet, she continues to extend herself to help the very people who do little for her and she's a strong-willed person so there is no telling her to reel back her need to be needed.

Baby bro treated life like one big party and got away with things neither of us could. My Dad gave him a car but took each of us girls to the dealership when the time came for us to get a car. He negotiated a deal on our behalf as we watched ... then had us contribute each month towards the car payments.

I'm actually glad he did that for us because both my sister and I were much more responsible growing up and were more pro-active in getting our lives on track. We learned early-on to take care of ourselves and did not need anyone's help.

Despite having things given to him or done for him into his young adulthood, our brother, sadly, didn't fare as well. He tended to mask his problems with partying and alcohol and had a few DUIs. The last DUI took his life at age 26 after lingering in the hospital in a coma for a month.

It should be interesting to read some of the science behind this birth-order thing. Children can share DNA and have some of the same life experiences but they all come out of it uniquely different. While it's silly to think that birth order is "the reason" it can certainly be a contributing factor.

Thanks

Layna61524

Layna, dearie ... sorry about your baby bro. I am a last born, too and ain't quite sure what the heck is wrong with me... I should be globe-trotting by now. Thanks for the enlightenment.

@Super Eagle: Thank you, friend. I appreciate those sentiments.

Our mom passed 2 years prior and he hadn't been the same since. They had this bond that was simply unreal. He would often tell me he dreamed of her calling for him and that she wanted him to be with her in eternity. I tried to help him the best way I could but those haunting dreams ultimately led him to drown his issues in the bottle.

As long as you're alive and have your health, there is still time to steer yourself in the direction you feel you need to go.

Layna61524

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