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Jeffrey A. Kottler, "Change: What Really Leads to Lasting Personal Transformation"
English | ISBN: 0199981388 | 2013 | EPUB | 376 pages | 3,7 MB

Change
is often a mystery, one that baffles doctors, therapists, teachers,
coaches, parents-and especially those of us who struggle to alter bad
habits or simply make lasting improvements in our lives. Why do we
suddenly change for the better after years of failed efforts? Why do
some of us never escape our self-destructive behaviors, even when we
desperately want to? What is it that most reliably and effectively
produces growth, learning and development that persist over time?
In
this vividly written volume, psychotherapist Jeffrey Kottler weaves
together inspiring stories and the latest research, taking the reader on
a fascinating exploration of human behavior while highlighting what
does-and does not-lead to lasting change. Kottler illuminates our many
efforts to change-to stop taking drugs, reduce dependencies, leave a
destructive relationship, find new and more meaningful work, or adjust
to a devastating accident or trauma. Readers are invited to explore key
triggers such as hitting bottom, moments of clarity, the power of
altruism and service, travel to new surroundings, reading or listening
to stories, religious conversion, and much more. Kottler also explores
why most changes don't last and what we can do to prevent relapses.

Throughout
the book, Kottler recounts stories of colleagues and patients-and even
recalls episodes from his own life-often moving tales of remarkable,
unexpected, and lasting transformation. He looks for instance at a young
black basketball star, confined to a wheelchair for life after being
shot four times, who turned his life around, becoming a scholar and a
PhD.

An intriguing glimpse into the complexity of the human
psyche, Change will engage anyone who has ever struggled to alter a
habit, enrich relationships, recover from disappointment or failure,
strive for more meaningful and productive work, deal with anxiety,
loneliness, fears, stress, and depression, or transform their lives in
any kind of significant way.