[GET] Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited

[Nancy857]

The FULL TEXT of Sam Vaknin's classic, groundbreaking BIBLE of NARCISSISM and NARCISSISTIC ABUSE, now in its 10th edition. Tips and advice as well as the most complete clinical background. Narcissistic Personality Disorder and its effects on the narcissist, the psychopath and their nearest and dearest in a variety of settings: the family, workplace, in Church, the community, law enforcement, and politics. 100 frequently asked questions and two essays - a total of 730 pages! Updated to reflect the NEW criteria in the recent fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM).

You are not alone! Are YOU Abused? Stalked? Harassed? Victimized? Confused and Frightened? Were you brought up by a Narcissistic or Psychopathic Parent? Married to a Narcissist or a Psychopath - or Divorcing One? Afraid your children will turn out to be narcissists or psychopaths? Want to cope with this pernicious, baffling condition? OR: Are You a Narcissist or a Psychopath - or suspect that You may be one ... This book will teach you how to Cope, Survive, and Protect Your Loved Ones!

"Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" is based on correspondence since 1996 with hundreds of people diagnosed with Narcissistic and Antisocial Personality Disorders (narcissists and psychopaths) and with thousands of their suffering family members, friends, therapists, and colleagues. The first ever book about narcissistic abuse, Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited offers a detailed, first hand account of what it is like to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It contains new insights and an organized methodological framework. The book comprises more than 100 Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) regarding relationships with abusive narcissists and the Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

What is a personality disorder? When the personality is rigid to the point of being unable to change in reaction to changing circumstances - we say that it is disordered. Such a person takes behavioral, emotional, and cognitive cues exclusively from others. His inner world is, so to speak, vacated. His True Self is dilapidated and dysfunctional. Instead he has a tyrannical and delusional False Self. Such a person is incapable of loving and of living. He cannot love others because he cannot love himself. He loves his reflection, his surrogate self. And he is incapable of living because life is a struggle towards, a striving, a drive at something. In other words: life is change. He who cannot change cannot live.

The narcissist is an actor in a monodrama, yet forced to remain behind the scenes. The scenes take center stage, instead. The Narcissist does not cater at all to his own needs. Contrary to his reputation, the Narcissist does not "love" himself in any true sense of the word. He feeds off other people, who hurl back at him an image that he projects to them. This is their sole function in his world: to reflect, to admire, to applaud, to detest - in a word, to assure him that he exists. Otherwise, the narcissist feels, they have no right to tax his time, energy, or emotions.

The posting of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited on the Web in 1997 has elicited a flood of excited, sad and heart rending responses, mostly from victims of Narcissists but also from people suffering from NPD. This is a true picture of the resulting correspondence with them. This book is not intended to please or to entertain. NPD is a pernicious, vile and tortuous disease, which affects not only the Narcissist. It infects and forever changes people who are in daily contact with the Narcissist. In other words: it is contagious. It is my contention that Narcissism is the mental epidemic of the twentieth century, a plague to be fought by all means. This tome is my contribution to minimizing the damages of this disorder.

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[Lumos]

Nancy857 for this share !!

This portion really says so much, so well IMO:

(01-11-2018 10:11 AM)Nancy857 Wrote:  NPD is a pernicious, vile and tortuous disease, which affects not only the Narcissist. It infects and forever changes people who are in daily contact with the Narcissist. In other words: it is contagious. It is my contention that Narcissism is the mental epidemic of the twentieth century, a plague to be fought by all means. This tome is my contribution to minimizing the damages of this disorder.

Having known too many with NPD, BPD and even ODD it has become obvious to me that it and its related illnesses are indeed at epidemic levels.

Anyone discovering this type of topic with interest will also do well to look into info about the entire Cluster B personality disorder subject; this type of info could actually be a lifesaver for anyone afflicted with closeness of a Cluster B sufferer.

[Lumos]

This thread needs a little bump !!
Learning about this topic can help so many folks in so many ways.
Sadly, the zippy DL is gone, so maybe our excellent Nancy857 will put this up again for anyone who may need it.

[sweetanukritisharma]

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[SubZero]

@smithnowt,

thanks for bumping this thread :)
I have downloaded the eBook. Seems really interesting.

Aren't we plunging into a huge epidemic of narcissism, these days, thanks to SOCIAL MEDIA? Just think about Facebook, and especially Instagram...
I look at people on Instagram, and all I see is narcissist here, narcissist there. I don't think this behavior will be eradicated soon!

This part goes hand-in-hand with what I'm saying here:

(01-11-2018 10:11 AM)Nancy857 Wrote:  He (the narcissist) feeds off other people, who hurl back at him an image that he projects to them. This is their sole function in his world: to reflect, to admire, to applaud, to detest - in a word, to assure him that he exists. Otherwise, the narcissist feels, they have no right to tax his time, energy, or emotions.

[Lumos]

Hi SubZero !!
Great sig - I admire greatly it each time that I see it.

Upon this distasteful subject there is so much which relates...
For example - in recent decades theft became a legitimate business tactic - which is also the result of corporate entities having zero obligation to be truthful, ever.

Crank the clock back around 100 years and have a look though;
Robber barons were known and named as such - companies which sold lies most often failed - and lots of things which folks silently tolerate now actually brought out lynch mobs.

So - was that time better ??
Maybe, but then there were folks like Al Capone as well as large scale open gang warfare.

Straight back at narcissism now=>
Lots of 'normal' stuff these days would have gotten folks locked inside rubber rooms in the past, for their own protections !!
My example - (anti-) social media gamers, who sit alone sort of twitching now and then, talking to themselves and invisible pretend friends while staring at pictures inside a frame.
Of course even 5 decades ago there were no such things as PCs, but the effect is the same:
No real social contact, no strong bonds making for lifetime friendships, and other poor choices such as bad hygiene and eating habits.

Is it any surprise therefore that we as a species have become accepting of 'leaders' who are visibly sociopaths and psychopaths ??

Those who are reasonably NOT in any of these terrible conditions simply have no frame of reference to use in seeing what they are NOT.

Sadly, this is also the mechanism behind successful marketing;
So, since I cannot imagine someone telling me total fictions to get my $$$, I take them at face value and then feel like an utter idiot when I have just bought (another...) bucket of steam.

This world is becoming sicker by the second IMO, and such illnesses beget more of the same as has been observed - and the anti-social media trends ARE pushing all this along IMO.

[Lumos]

A very worthy (IMO) 3 minute watch, where finally, she explains the trap which catches so many folks:





That being said - do I recommend buying her programs ??
Nope.
Not unless one has loads of excess time for fluffy listening and excess funds to blow away.
(I did subscribe BTW - and also got a refund after wasting too much time digging for useful info without success.)

[Lumos]

As a man who has been subjected to the attentions of many, many narcs, I heard the song linked below and it really spoke to me of how things go with such challenging relationships.

Here is the direct YT link for it:

Code:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FBzDfu6bk8s

Here it is for viewing here:





And here are its lyrics:

Haunt Me, by Kaskade and The Moth and The Flame

Quote:Ghosts circle my room
Specter that looms from you, unsleeping
Your voice, echo the noise
Sing me a siren song, mislead me
This is how you haunt me
You talk but just to taunt me
You want but you don't want me
You're gone

This is how I haunt you
You want me just to want you
You think that I don't see through
You're wrong

This is how you haunt me
This is how you haunt me
This is how you haunt me

Go, I'm not alone
Turned off my phone, how are you sleeping?
Your spies, flies on my wall
Hard to ignore, they loom above me
This is how you haunt me
You talk but just to taunt me
You want but you don't want me
You're gone

This is how I haunt you
You want me just to want you
You think that I don't see through
You're wrong

This is how you haunt me
(This is how you haunt me)
You talk but just to taunt me
(You talk but just to taunt me)
You want but you don't want me
(You want but you don't want me)
You're gone

This is how I haunt you
(This is how I haunt you)
You want me just to want you
(You want me just to want you)
You think that I don't see through
(You think that I don't see through)
You're wrong

This is how you haunt me
This is how you haunt me
This is how you haunt me

You talk but just to taunt me
You want but you don't want me
You're gone

This is how I haunt you
You want me just to want you
You think that I don't see through
You're wrong
This is how you haunt me

Enjoy !!

[dynasty5]

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